Bullying at School - Is your Child a Silent Victim? Get the Lowdown on Bullies and their Victims!

By [http://ezinearticles.com/?expert=Sandra_Fisher]Sandra Fisher

Bullying in schools has become an epidemic. But the worst part is that the people who need to know about it are often the last to know.

Why is this? It�s an unfortunate fact that many children who are being bullied are often ashamed or unwilling to talk about it. It�s almost as if they are protecting their tormentors. And that�s exactly what bullies want. It allows them to get away with it scot-free.

At school a child who is being victimized is afraid to go out to play. He knows that the time of punishment is once again at hand. Meanwhile, the teacher, unaware of the classroom dynamics, goes to the staff room for a cup of tea while all hell is breaking loose in the playgrounds. School bullying in the playground is loud and noisy. After all, it�s difficult to victimize, demean and physically push a child around without making some sort of noise. But back in the classroom, the bully is the picture of innocence. All is quiet and serene as if nothing has happened at all. The only give-away is the victim�s growing withdrawal and inability to participate properly in class activities.

Even when your child goes home from school, he won�t tell you about it. For one thing, he is too embarrassed to reveal that he is not coping at school. But more importantly, the bully�s ongoing threats are vividly etched into his mind. Obviously if you question your child directly, you are not going to get to the bottom of the problem. He is trying too hard to conceal it.

However, he may show signs of being unwilling to go to school or he may complain about various ailments. But these are only hints and not conclusive indications. Your child is not being dishonest. He simply cannot bring himself to divulge his problems. So if he won't talk about it, how can you tell if he is being victimized? Fortunately, there is a very effective way to find out. It goes right to the heart of the problem and it will give you a much clearer view of your child�s emotional state.

At first it may seem strange to think about examining your child�s handwriting for answers. But this is indeed where you will find much of the information you are looking for.

Not only will your child�s handwriting explain a great deal about his state of wellbeing; the bully�s handwriting will also reveal a lot about his own motivation and personality make-up too.

Few people realize that handwriting reveals unspoken feelings and emotions and that it also reveals aggression and a predisposition to violence. It�s the ideal tool to help us assess a child�s emotional state of well-being. It�s also very effective when used to help us identify sadistic tendencies in bullies.

When you know how, you only have to glance at a page of handwriting to understand its implications.

Unfortunately it isn�t possible to show you how to do this in the space of a short article but it�s important for you to know that it can be done. In situations such as these we need all the help we can get and when you can read the hidden message in handwriting the possibilities are endless.

Sandra Fisher, a parent, teacher and expert handwriting analyst is the author of many books about handwriting analysis. In her new book; �School Bullying - is your child a silent victim?� she reveals a simple way to use handwriting to delve into the problem of school bullying. For more information go to http://www.graphicinsight.co.za/schoolbullying.htm